How to Foster a Healthy Sense of Adventure in Your Children

“Do one thing a day that scares you.”
-Mary Schmich

Adventure requires risk. According to Merriam Webster, risk is defined as the possibility of loss, injury or peril, and adventure is what follows. Adventure starts the moment you decide to expose yourself to an unknown outcome. Adventure is what happens when you push forward. Despite the fear. Despite the trepidation. Despite the negative possibilities. Adventure is the physical manifestation of the abstract concept of what it means to truly live.

Risk taking is a part of life. We’ve all faced the crossroads of deciding whether to cling to stability and familiarity, or throw caution to the wind and leap into the unknown. Although it’s comfortable to follow a predictable outline in order to arrive at an expected outcome, doing so isn’t always the best option. Setting aside predictability, in the name of adventure, can result in some of the most memorable, life changing experiences, lessons, and opportunities.

As adults, we’ve seen proof and heard success stories about how big risks can pay off. We understand that adventures don’t always end in triumph. However, are still undeniably worthy of pursuit. We’ve experienced the highs and lows of our own risk taking and have learned that a strong sense of adventure is a valuable quality to have.

As parents, it’s our job to pass that knowledge on and teach our kids to be confidently adventurous. Here are three ways to foster a healthy sense of adventure in your children:

Support Safe Risks

As children grow and interact with their world, they will naturally encounter obstacles that’ll force them to decide whether to be daring or cautious. Use those experiences as teachable moments. Model how to weigh the pros and cons of possible consequences. And if the risk is safe to pursue, encourage your little one to go for it! The way you choose to respond heavily influences the type of response your child employs. So, instill confidence by providing the proper problem solving skills to analyze the safety level of the risk, then be supportive when the adventure begins.

Don’t Project Personal Fears

As much as we hate to admit it, parents’ personal phobias and negative self-talk is contagious. Children are perceptive and impressionable, causing them to absorb and mirror the behaviors that surround them. Your attitude, perspective and outlook is the blueprint for your children’s foundation. Therefore, be aware of how you handle risks. Think of the example you’re setting and adjust accordingly. Lastly, when speaking to your children, equalize your emphasis on potential outcomes by highlighting what may go right, instead of only discussing what may go wrong.

Regularly Expose Your Kids to New Experiences

Humans are granted such a short period of life to feel unburdened by the stressors of adulthood. By design, childhood is absent of major responsibility. It is a safe space. To learn, to play and to fail. School-aged children have the luxury of experimenting and discovering who they are, while still covered safely under the umbrella of financial and emotional support. So be intentional. Foster their sense of adventure by tailoring their exposure. Seek frequent, meaningful risks and experiences that will help build character and shape their worldview. Give your child the best start possible to their lifelong pursuit of adventure.

Author Neale Donald Walsch stated, “Life begins at the end of your comfort zone.” Risk can be scary, but it can also be gratifying. Do your part to guide your children through coping with the fear and celebrating the reward. Use the three tips above to help foster a sense of healthy adventure. By doing so, you are opening the door to a lifetime of fulfillment.

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Pointers to Remember In Raising Brave & Adventurous Children

We live in a big and uncertain world. Thus, it is easy to understand moms and dads who are overly protective of their children. Yet on second thought, the ultimate role of a parent is not to shield their kids from danger, but to equip them with skills that will enable them to cope with whatever challenges that may come their way. As sad as it may sound, parents cannot be by their children’s side all the time or forever. At one point, you will have to let go of your kids and allow them to explore the world on their own. This moment is something that parents should get ready for. Courage is a must if you want to survive and achieve great things in life, so responsible parents should make it a priority to instill bravery and resilience in their children.

Nevertheless, your goal to raise kids with a tough spirit is easier said than done. Most of the time, parents are faced with a difficult dilemma because giving children some degree of freedom is also risking their safety. For this reason, some parents would rather keep their kids sheltered and perfectly unscathed inside the home. So how do you awaken a sense of adventure in your children so they will be eager rather than scared to chart their own path? The following reminders can help you raise brave and adventurous children.

Be a model of courage.

As stressed time and time again, parents should practice what they preach. Parents who want to raise brave kids should also examine their behaviors. Children learn best by imitating and are likely to pick up the habits of those around them, so consciously set a good example. If you manage to stay calm and alert during a stressful situation, your kids will also have the strength to be brave during similar situations. Moreover, a research study from the University of Wisconsin confirms that parents can pass their anxiety to their kids.

Discuss your child’s fears.

Children can be scared of the littlest things and parents can sometimes be tempted to dismiss it as something inconsequential. But if you truly want to help your children overcome this fear, start by discussing it with your child. Try to understand where the fear is coming from by listening intently to your child and be genuinely sympathetic. Instead of laughing off the fear, gradually encourage them to face the things that are causing them anxiety.

Share inspiring stories of bravery.

Storytelling is an effective way to introduce concepts and ideas such as courage and resilience. Share stories about men and women who successfully overcome diversity through braving great odds. Literature and cinema offer a wide resource you can use to inspire children to overcome fear. Give them books that depict the importance of bravery. Or allow them to watch movies in which courage is the prevailing theme.

Mind your warnings and reminders.

As parents, you may often hear yourself saying the phrase “be careful” to your child numerous times. In an attempt to avoid any untoward incidents, there is nothing wrong in reminding your kids to be careful. Still, constant notice to stay safe does not really accomplish anything and may even incite fear to kids. According to university professor, Ellen Beate Sandseter, parents can effectively help their kids stay safe by using specific and action-oriented terms. For example, in a playground where a kid is playing on monkey bars, a mother can say terms such as, “stay focused” or “take your time” rather than “be careful”. Instead of presenting the dangers that may happen, you teach kids ways to tackle the challenge with ease.

From day one, parents should already be aware of the importance of fostering independence on their children. Courage is an essential trait to survive and achieve great things in life. Making a conscious effort to raise brave and adventurous children is one of the best gifts you can give your kids.

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Simple Ways To Instill The Virtue Of Altruism To Children

If every parent consciously makes an effort to ensure their children grow up with a passion to help others, the world would definitely a better place. However, our competitive society today seems to be so focused on accumulating wealth and valuables. This makes the task of raising kind-hearted kids that will then become responsible adults quite a challenge.

Kids may be exposed to various people and environments as they are growing up, but their most important influence will start at home. This gives parents ample opportunity to instill the virtue of generosity to their children.It would be such an achievement to raise a kid with a big heart and generous spirit.So make an effort instill the virtue of altruism with the following tips:

Practice generosity.

You can preach all day about the importance of sharing and giving, but actions speak louder than words. It is better to set a good example by being a living representation of what generosity means. You can do this by lending a hand to a neighbor or a friend in need. You can also let your kids tag along while you serve as a volunteer on community projects. Your children will likely emulate your behavior, so allow them to see you giving back to society.

Stress the importance of kindness to others.

In order for your kids to understand that kindness matters, gently discuss with them how their actions can create a huge impact on others. Tell them that some families or children are not as blessed as others, but people who are more privileged can do a lot to make things easier for them. Young minds can get overwhelmed or confused when you talk about injustice, sickness or poverty; so remember to keep the discussion age-appropriate. This practice will serve a double purpose because aside from encouraging empathy, you also teach them to be grateful for the things they have.

Choose a cause to support.

Raising a caring and giving kid will be effortless if you make charity a family affair. You can ask family members to choose a charity or cause and determine the one you will support by voting. It will also be a fun bonding moment for the whole family as all of you find ways and share ideas on how to help the chosen charity. Aside from that you also hone your child’s skills in brainstorming and planning. You may just be surprised with the insights and suggestions that you will get from your child.

Give them opportunities to share.

Your children will understand that giving is something that can be part of their daily life if you give them opportunities to share everyday. One way to do this is by allowing your kids to pack an extra sandwich or snacks to share with school friends. You can also encourage them to write a thank you or appreciation note to teachers or other people that they mingle with everyday. Aside from teaching them to be thoughtful and generous, you also teach them good manners that are essential life skills.

Recognize good deeds.

Do not forget to complement your child if you notice him or her being thoughtful about the needs of others. Keep your appreciation genuine and point out the specific outcome of the good deed done. Your praise will allow your child to feel good about being kind. It will also encourage positive behavior and build self-esteem.

Let them experience the fulfillment that generosity brings.

It is a nice bedtime routine to discuss with your child the good deeds he or she had done during the day. Ask your child how he or she feels after doing something good for others. Your child will likely feel fulfilled and happy, so it is a nice way to let them understand the benefits of giving. Let your kids know that in giving, they are also doing themselves a big favor.

Your children are your legacy. If you want to leave a lasting positive legacy to the world, focus on raising children who are caring and altruistic. As parents, this is one of your most important tasks and this is definitely one of the best gifts you can give humanity.

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